Sonja Lyubomirsky

Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside, happiness researcher, and author of The How of Happiness, The Myths of Happiness, and How to Feel Loved, co-authored with Harry Reis.

Feeling Loved Depends More on Being Known Than Being Admired

Psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky argues that many people’s problem is not that they are unloved, but that love does not register. Drawing on her research into happiness interventions, she says the practices that reliably improve wellbeing often work by making people feel more connected, known, and cared for — and that feeling loved depends on habits such as sharing, curiosity, listening, validation, and noticing others in ordinary ways.

Chris WilliamsonJun 25, 202624 min read