Elizabeth Gilbert

Resentment Can Reveal the Relationship Expectations We Have Not Admitted

Elizabeth Gilbert argues that resentment in relationships can reveal expectations a person had not admitted to having. When disappointment shows her what she wanted, she says, she can either take responsibility for that desire or sulk. Gilbert also says romance makes it harder for her to separate her moods from her partner: she has learned that bad feelings can arise without anyone causing them, yet still finds herself blaming a partner when she is in a relationship.